Questions for understanding the view, shifting my attention from the person or individual to their affective motions. What effect do I think that would have well I’m not sure because I I guess I think of the person as their reflective emotions as that is them that’s how I feel about myself my afflicted emotions I feel like that’s me , but I am able to separate myself off from those emotions when I practice coming to mind I’m focusing on my breath or whatever so there is room there. There is space. Something to think about. I think I am in my practice. I will practice noticing the space. Reflection 3. I keep wanting to go to the most or more difficult person and trying to figure out how this is ever going to work for someone like that and feeling like wow this is just crazy. This is never going to work and I realize I don’t need to go to that person. I just need to stay where it is working and where it is easy in order to add change those neuronal patterns that are in me. And just allow that process to continue to work and not try to force or control the way it’s going to go or what how the outcomes are going to be just go with what workso and what’s easy and trust the process. Have a good day.🌞 Reflection 2. I see how that when this I practice is even for a short period of time I feel more open and less constricted and depressed. I just feel more open and relaxed and connected and in seeing this other person in a in a way, that’s a positive way and it brings me happiness. I feel more happy and I feel more connected with myself to that person and related in relating and connecting with their happiness. I feel more open and more complete and more at peace and happy Reflection one. I see when I picture a person that’s a difficult person how and I see them is happy and wanting to be happy just like me and fulfilled and successful and I see them as happy and that makes I feel happy inside I feel connected and with them and happy also. Undoubtedly, there are people in your life whom you find difficult. They could be coworkers, family members, or someone else. Over the next few days, choose one of these people as the object of your love. When you encounter them, or when they come to mind, try to cultivate the wish for them to be happy and to have the causes of happiness. If it is helpful, reflect on the fact that they are probably someone else’s best friend, and recognize the circumstances that cause them to act unskillfully toward you. See if you can cultivate this wish ten times each day. – What is your experience like when meditating on love for a difficult person? Are you able to see the similarities between them and yourself? Explain how this unfolds. this person wants to be happy and be able to move And feel good and strong and healthy. And happy. Just like I want to be strong and healthy and happy and free of pain and able to move about freely. I see her and then she’s Envelope in bright light with sparkling stars sparkling around her, and her face is relaxed and she’s smiling and she’s content. Mingyur Rinpoche says that there is a great deal of benefit from this style of meditation, even when practiced for a short period. Why do you think this is the case? I think that this is the case because I so strongly relate with her desire to be happy and free of pain and able to move that there’s just like this flow of connection of energy and focus on those feelings and thoughts to myself to her and it goes back-and-forth and there’s this warm thing goodness that comes out of me and back into me that opens me up. I open up and energy and warmth and goodness can flow out of me and flow into me. It’s like I open up to myself. I think it would have a huge effect to shift to the person‘s afflictive potion it. I feel myself breathing because that’s neutral it’s not it doesn’t have the negative quality of hatred toward another person that focusing on the person does focusing on the reflective motion is much more makes much more sense and I don’t i feel like a victim, it Depersonalizes It. I find in reflection one after the meditation with love for difficult person it’s really hard for me to feel a caring sense for that person. But I do it anyway. Which is we’ll just keep practicing. I am having difficulty with this practice so I think I will just concentrate more on seeing that that person is just like me but that’s really hard to I don’t see that person is just like me and also do it for shorter periods of time maybe go back to loving kindness for myself maybe I’m not ready for this. If you cover your feet with leather you are doing the same as covering the whole world with leather. If you free yourself, you can actually really transform the people around you, and you will find more friends than enemies. This is really important, so I want you to do this practice. And remember the example . [Mingyur What has been really helpful to me is to see that when my heart shuts down, I suffer. My opening my hearts to others, feels like reclaiming my heart. It doesn’t mean that we become passive when others do harm. There is what is called “fierce compassion” which is wielding the sword of wisdom with an open hearted presence.We say that you cannot defeat your enemies with hatred. You can defeat your enemies with compassion.